Wedding Planning - What Not to Do

Last week, I had the privilege of being interviewed by the kind and lovely Megan Bush of Groovin' Gourmets here in Richmond. Megan manages Groovin's social media and is the girl behind the camera for all their yummy food pics. We met at Urban Farmhouse here in town and chatted for nearly two hours. She interviewed me on mistakes that couples can avoid when planning their wedding. These wedding planning tips have come after experience working with a variety of weddings and learning what works and what doesn't. Applying these tips, will help your wedding run smoother and help you manage your stress level along the way! Below is the article that was published on Groovin's blog today:

These days, there are a plethora of fantastic websites available to help you in almost every aspect of wedding planning. Across the web, you can get wedding planning tips on all kinds of things, from wedding dates to avoid, to how to choose your maid of honor, but few articles explain what not to do. We spoke with the beautiful Maggie Richard, Owner of new event planning, styling, and design boutique, Maggie’s Misc Events, about the biggest mistakes she sees couples make in wedding planning, as well as on their actual wedding day:

Waiting Til The Last Minute

One of the biggest wedding planning mistakes that brides and grooms make is waiting until the last minute to hire vendors. Waiting until the last minute “makes it challenging, because some couples start planning their weddings as far out as 17 months, and when you wait until the last minute, you run the risk of vendors already being booked. In addition, pulling things together quickly can cause you to not enjoy the process and leaves more room for error, especially if you are planning most of it on your own,” says Maggie. Even casual weddings take quite a bit of planning. “Casual weddings are wonderful, but even with these weddings, there are still a lot of moving pieces to work out. Ideally, some of your big vendors (venue, planner, and photographer) should be booked at least 10-12 months out from the wedding to make the entire process, not just the wedding, more laid-back and less stress inducing.”

Heavy Drinking Before the Ceremony

You should definitely be celebrating on your wedding day, but drinking too much prior to the ceremony can cause issues. “When people are under the influence before the ceremony begins, they are less likely to be present or fully take in the gravity of what’s happening. Further, it can become problematic if the venue has restrictions and it can also make the responsibilities of your vendors more challenging.” Maggie recommends keeping the bar closed until the cocktail hour, because logistically, and from a liability standpoint, things tend to go smoother this way. Bonus - it will also save you money! Light beverages like Champagne and mimosas for the bridal party and groomsmen (and of course the bride and groom!) are fabulous while getting ready, but save the party for the reception. 

Too Many Chefs in the Kitchen

When there are too many “chefs in the kitchen”, it makes it difficult for your hired vendors to do their job. For instance, don’t ask Aunt Meryl to also bring her digital camera and take photos if you already have a paid photographer present. They may get in the way of the photographer doing the best job they can. “Trust the professionals, and try not to supplement with your family and friends.” Doing so can compromise the staff’s ability to do their job, and you don’t want your guests to have too much responsibility when they should be enjoying your wedding!

Cell Phones During Ceremony

Maggie recommends going “unplugged” for the ceremony, meaning that guests turn their cell phones and other electronics off. “Not having cell phones on during this time enables your guests to be much more present, and makes it a more meaningful experience for everyone,” says Maggie. Unplugged ceremonies are becoming more and more popular for this reason and your guests are there for your and will want to honor your wishes. However, Maggie adds: "you still should be courteous and graceful when making these requests." She recommends announcing it on your wedding website beforehand or scouring Pinterest for ideas about how to let your guests know sensitively via adorable (and pretty!) signs like this one originally from Offbeat Bride

Photo by: Krisandra Evans Photography

Forgetting the Ceremony

Speaking of the ceremony, “Couples often get so caught up in planning the reception, that making arrangements for the ceremony can get put off until days before the wedding,” says Maggie. Readers, the processional and recessional music, seating plan, whether to have communion or not if you’re religious, ushers, and even vows are things that couples fail to plan for. Even if your main focus is on your reception, “try not to put so much emphasis on it that you completely forget the ceremony.”

Pressure Instead of Purpose

Last but certainly not least, try to relax, and realize the purpose behind everything that you’re doing. “Don’t forget that this is one day, and it does not define the rest of your life. You’re about to marry your best friend, so try not to get too consumed in the process.” Maggie recommends taking some time off from planning, and putting aside time for just the two of you in order to remember the love that has inspired the occasion. “People aren’t going to remember if something goes wrong (and sometimes those things are memorable and even funny) - what they will remember is how your wedding made them feel, and how happy the two of you were together.”

I would like to thank Megan for giving me the opportunity to share these wedding planning tips with their brides and grooms! For more information about Groovin Gourmets' catering packages, or to view their menu options, visit the website at: http://groovingourmets.com/. Need a Wedding Day BFF (TM)? Click here to learn more: 

Thanks for stopping by!

~Maggie ♥