If you have ever planned a wedding, or are currently planning one, you know how hectic it can get. Between fittings, tastings, DIY nights (those hot glue gun burns are no joke!), and lots and lots of opinions, it can be hard to focus on the "love" part of this incredible journey. While design is a huge part of what I do and a deep passion, weddings are about more than just the theme or style. There is a greater purpose here. (Although I have been known to swoon over a Pinterest image now and then).
Spend Your Resources Wisely
If your overall budget for both the honeymoon and the wedding is $20,000 and you spend $18,500 on the wedding alone, that leaves only $1,500 for the honeymoon. The honeymoon is on average 7 or 8 days, the wedding is one. You will (typically) spend the majority of your time alone during the honeymoon. There is so much going on the day of the wedding, that you will actually have very little time alone (unless you purposefully include that into your itinerary). Therefore, It would be a better use of resources to spend $16,000 on the wedding and save the other $4,000 for the honeymoon. It is refreshing to have that time alone after all the chaos has died down to connect and share in your new life together. Find ways to cut wedding costs. For example, my husband and I decided to wait on my wedding ring because we wanted to go to St. John for our honeymoon, saving us $1,200 (and I already had my engagement ring anyways). Studies have shown that people who spend their money on experiences over things are typically happier. So next time you are trying to decide if you NEED to spend $350 on those wedding favors just think through how many experiences you could be missing out on later.
Get Creative with Your Registry
More and more people are getting married later in life. Most of the couples that I work with or that approach me are in their late 20's or early 30's. Typically, most of them have been living on their own for several years. If you have built up your home goods over these years and are trying to think through what to register for, consider giving guests the option to donate to a charity of your choice. My husband and I let the guests choose. We registered for things that neither of us had acquired over the years (like a grill or an amazing set of kitchen knives) and then gave guests the option to donate to St. Jude's or the American Cancer Society. You can direct guests to do this on your Knot website. If you are young and just starting out in life, then this may not apply to you, but if so, it can be an amazing way to spread love during your wedding.
Focus on Your Partner
I can't tell you how excited it makes me when one of my brides wants to include her fiance into the wedding planning process. I am doing a Batman themed wedding in November because the bride-to-be wants to honor her fiance's obsession with the D.C. Comics super hero. When you feel overwhelmed by decisions and opinions, focus on doing something special for your fiance. Plan a nice meal for him/her, or plan a nice wedding day surprise. When we focus on others, it takes our attention off of our selves and as an extension - our problems. There were some decisions my husband simply did not care about. At all. For example when I showed him the invitation choices, he said "they all just look like paper." However, there were things he really DID care about like: the suit he wore, the music played, the food, and the drinks. Do you see a trend? He was really interested in the experience.
So there you have it. The trend here seems to be focus on your love and the experience you are providing for each other and your family and friends. People will always remember how things made them "feel". Enjoy this time, remind your partner how crazy you are for them, and think about how excited you are for this next chapter in your lives.
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(Batman shoes photo found here.)